Lady in Waiting

I Will Wait For You BY JANET BOYD

I will wait for you no matter where you go
I will wait for you for however long
I will stay strong for that day I know
That someday soon will come along
That's when the waiting can be done
That's when the waiting will be done....



I figured given my long hiatus and since the last few entries have been career or politically oriented, I'd first begin to update everyone on the lastest news in the love department. I will not be explicit about my love life via blogspot like I have been in the past...primarily because I'm taking the stance that unless I'm seriously involved, it's not really worth talking about. However, I will write about relevant issues surrounding certain themes that come up with mine or my friends' relationships. Especially since me and the lovely ladies that surround me coincindently usually go through the same things around the same time...at least as far as men are concerned.

As of right now, the lovely ladies of Courtney Inc. are currently Ladies In Waiting with a modern day twist. Many of us are content with our current interest...all of our leading fellas are very solid, respectful, and HONEST men. The only problem is that most of us feel that despite the fact we are semi-involved with certain guys, we still feel like we are playing a game of slight tug-of-war. All of us are involved with a guy who undoubtly is feelin the shit out of us, is completely honest about his view of our relationship and his relations with other women (even when it's things we do not want to hear), sex tends to take an extreme back seat to being in a partnership, and on those very few occassions that we do feel insecure about our status they keep it real without being manipulative or making us feel like idiots. We all feel accepted flaws and all...but most all we feel respected and that we are not being taken advantage of.

So what's the problem? The problem is that these men still want to play. The difference is that they are honest about it. There are no games. And they have enough respect and love for us to not want to lead us on. My one friend in particular has reached that mutual "I love you" phase with the guy that she is talking to, but they are still not in a committed relationship. There is no doubt in my mind after meeting him that he's feeling her...and that says a lot coming from me because I'm very overprotective of my friends. But the truth of the matter is, he likes her, is not ready to settle down, and at the same time is man enough not to hurt her because he genuinely cares.

A couple of my friends have ran into these types of guys many of times and have had major dramatic events occur around them. Mainly becuase some of my homegirls will try to force the man into a relationship because they feel they shouldn't be expected to wait for them. They have learned from this mistake. And by mistake I'm not saying they should wait for them....I'm saying that they should not force a relationship. They should let him do him and let God do the rest. It's God's job to work on them, not ours. If he comes around, he comes around...and he can only hope that he's not too late.

A part of me cannot help but entertain the thought that maybe these guys feel us but not enough. What happens if we simply are not what they are looking for? But at the same time, all of these men in question are men who tend not say things unless they were true.


I have not talked to any homeboys about being what I call "A Lady in Waiting" so I'm definitely interested in hearing the males perspective. Once I talk to a couple of guys, I'd be sure to post an update.

Until then any readers can feel free to leave a comment as the ladies in waiting patiently wait for their leading fellas to come home....