Are Men the New Women?

Listening to the Ciara's and Beyonce's of our time, it is evident that women are definitely the new men. In this day and age of women wavering between asking themselves "If I Was Boy" and actually being "Like A Boy", it's no wonder why I tend to have issues with feminity. LOL. As a believer in balance, I am all for the yin and yang. Therefore, I cannot help but wonder if women are the new men, then does that mean men are the new women? Maybe it's neither. Maybe everyone is becoming more and more balanced and on some level, we are slowly but surely becoming more eye to eye.

In a discussion that I had with a homeboy the other day, I picked his brain about how aggressive is too aggressive when it comes to a woman approaching him? I asked a couple of guys this question. The reason why I asked this particular question was because I am an impatient person. I hate sitting around waiting for guys to make moves...if you want something done, why not do it yourself? I am a lady who has a lot of balls and I don't mind approaching a guy and asking him out on a date. Honestly, it is what feels natural to me. However, it's hard to sense exactly how guys will take it.

Not suprisingly, the consensus with most guys is that they like sexually aggressive gals but they did not know exactly how they would take being asked out. So I proposed the question if instead of being asked out to a date such as being taken to dinner how they would feel if a gal made the first move and asked them if they could cook them dinner. Of course, they were all down for it. I guess some cliches never fail "the fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach".

After proposing this idea, the guys I talked to started to open up a bit as to how they view dating. Guys without a doubt love being guys....but at the same time, they do appreciate being spoiled. I want to clarify being spoiled....I think as women, we unfortunately have been trained to think that spoiling a man means selling sex. Men are not superhumans nor are they ruthless sexual animals. Basically, the things that women want from men is not that far different from the things that men want from women.

So I guess the moral of the story is, who cares about gender roles. If you see something you want, just go after it. Dating games are for sissies. It's not about coming up with the smoothest lines (guys) or being coy and playing hard to get (gals)...if you like someone, it's simple...just like them.