Name Your Price.....

Okay...I'm a habitual dater, that's a well-known and overemphasized fact that I continuously bring up in my blog. N e one who is a habitual dater uses dating as a source of entertainment. Dating is nothing but flirty fun. For habitual daters, dating is not a means to find Mr. or Mrs. Right-For-Me. Rather, it's more like being a personal life escort.

There is a good number of men in the world who have the need to show off by having a pretty hot thing on their arm...and they are willing to reach deep down in their pockets to ensure they have a companion to do things with. There is a good number of men who want to do a lot of things but they do not want to do them by themselves. Especially if you are a man who is on his grind and doing the damn thing (i.e. need dates to corporate events, etc...). In addition, many men have girlfriends and wives at home that are not capable of traveling (i.e. kids, job) or that are simply a headache in public.

I am the type of person who does not mind being the trophy chic or the chic that a guy runs to when he needs a break from a nagging girlfriend...as long as its short-term (I'm not for being a trophy wife) and it's friendly it's all good. I like being taken on trips and being invited to see and try new and different things because like them, I want to do things but not by myself.

The greatest part of it all is that you do not have to worry about an exchange of mutual benefit. Correction. There is an exchange of mutual benefit in that the guy is only looking for an escort. That doesn't mean he won't try to tap that ass but the understanding is that you get to try new and different things at no expense and in exchange he gets the benefit of a cool, unneedy, good-looking young lady.

To be a habitual dater you have to understand the dating rules and rule #1 is DO NOT GET ATTACHED!. I have a friend who lives the same relationship lifestyle as I do (yes there are different relationship lifestyles which I will explore in another blog). The only difference between me and her is that she continuously breaks rule #1 and I continuously meet guys who break rule #1. I need to start dating the guys she dates and she needs to start dating the guys that I date.

Rule #2 is NEVER WALK THE LINE B/W COMPANION AND HO. There are some women who believe that they are habitual daters but in all reality they are hoes or what I like to call "house prostitutes". A house prostitute is a girl who fucks for money without the street corner. A Gold-digger is a type of house prostitute.

I decided to bring this topic to attention because my homegirl encountered a website called SeekingArrangement.

When you enter this site, you either sign up to be a sugar daddy, sugar mommy, or a sugar baby. The site's purpose is for men and women that have money to find people who want to make financial "arrangements". Basically, it's a site for house prostitution. My homegirl signed up for it and was telling me how she had a date tonight with one of the millionaires (the people who do the site have to approve you). I thought to myself "go ahead big pimpin" and decided to take a look at the site before I really knew what it was.

All I have to say is EEEEWWWW! There were a good number of rich married men on there who are between the ages of 35-60. As a sugar baby, on your profile, you put an asking price. You can request amounts up to $20,000+ a month to be a sugar daddy's or sugar mommy's personal travel buddy.

As I briefly mentioned, people have different relationship lifestyles. There are so many websites that support different type of relationship lifestyle communities. I suggest that if you are a person who is looking to live a particular relationship lifestyle, start searching for communities online.

I found a relationship community that supports my personal relationship lifestyle at one of SeekingArrangements sister sites. I'm all for an exchange of mutual benefit...but not if the benefit concerns sex. I was pretty disappointed to find out that my homegirl is a house prostitute. I was even more disappointed that she would even think I would consider an "arrangement". It's like being a concubine to a rich King. Why be a concubine when you can be a princess, a person on the track of Queendom?

Some of the profiles were pretty interesting to say the least. Here are some rephrased exerts from some of them:

"I'm looking for someone who can meet me 1-2 times a month for a period of 2 days. We can meet up anywhere except for Vegas. My wife lives in Vegas. Any travel would be paid in full. No pros."

"Seeking a sugar baby 24-29 year old woman who can meet me in the mornings and afternoons. But no weekends. This schedule is a must as I am a very busy man."

I don't know what the sugar momma's had to say to their sugar babies for obvious reasons. But it would be interesting to know how wealthy women get down.

I think doing these type of searches is particularly good for men who have a cheating problem...there are a lot of Hugh Heffner type of communities out there...even for those who don't have deep pockets (i.e. you can have a lot of sugar mommies).

Trigger Happy

I guess it's that time again.....

Every now and again I go through periods when my mind goes "trigger happy". I'm a person who has been through a lot of shit in my life and I have a tendency to hold it all in. I say time and time again that most people feel that holding things in is an unhealthy habit but I beg to differ. I think holding things in and keeping your composure is just part of being an adult and is the very thing that helps you push through life to get to where you need to be. It's that soldier mentality.

If everyone sat around himmin and hawin about all the shit they've gone through, then everyone would still be livin like most of the Baltimorans I know. As much as most HGMs (hot ghetto messes) like to think that they are invicinble, go around holding their balls, or constantly getting in bitches faces, to me they are weak because many of them don't have enough strength in them to overcome their circumstances. They are weak enough to let their trials make them hostile, angry, careless, and defensive.

Regardless of the trials I have faced and despite the fact that I'm waiting for that point in my life where I feel like the hustle is over, I still try to maintain the perspective that I'm a very blessed person. Times do get a little rough but I always try to remember that there are people who are significantly less fortunate. Some people have to consistently live with war or live in a country where a substantial number of their family members are lost to AIDS.

But the fact still remains....I'm still a bitch with many unresolved issues. Even though I for the most part have a good handle on them, every once in the blue moon I get a sharp pang in my stomach and want to throw up (no really I actually threw up today). As I said, my mind goes trigger happy and all the things that have happened to me in the past flashes before me as if I were flipping through TV commercials. I'm not freakin out about it or anything since I'm used to it...it's just one of those things that has to past. It's just that it's an inconvenience considering it's just about finals time and I feel I have ADD.

Today I picked up my phone to check the time, put it down on the counter, then asked my roomate "damn, where the hell did I put my phone?". Then I thought I lost my roomates calculator only to find it in the refridgerator. The point is, I'm definitely distracted and I'm having a hard time focusing. I really do not have time to give myself any type of attention when it comes to what's going on down under. I have a ton of school work for the last week of classes, I have finals, I still owe the school some money (I got it down from $15,000 to $1500), I still have to pack my shit by the 14th, and I still have to get all my paperwork and arrangements together for my move to Vegas.

I'm a big girl so it ain't nothing but it would be nice to have a break and to know that I have a safety net....

"Everybody has got somethin'"