Videos of the Day: Palin's Interview with Katie Couric & Michelle Obama on the Daily Show

Is she stupid or is she stupid?


"A maverick is an unbranded range animal, especially a motherless calf; it can also mean a person who thinks independently; a lone dissenter; a non-conformist or rebel." --Wikipedia




Now that's a black woman for your ass...she knows how to hold it down!

Video of the Day: Bill Maher on the Daily Show regarding Election

The following is an interview with Bill Maher on the Daily Show where he is promoting his new film Religilous. Even though I do not necessarily support his skeptical views (although they are very thought provoking), I would like to highlight his thought on the current presidential election:

"I do think that America is a country [where] there is two Americas. There is like a progressive European nation that a lot of us live in or want to live in and it's being strangled by the Sarah Palin's of the world...and [it] can't quite be born because this other stupid redneck nation will not allow it." --Bill Maher

Lady in Waiting

I Will Wait For You BY JANET BOYD

I will wait for you no matter where you go
I will wait for you for however long
I will stay strong for that day I know
That someday soon will come along
That's when the waiting can be done
That's when the waiting will be done....



I figured given my long hiatus and since the last few entries have been career or politically oriented, I'd first begin to update everyone on the lastest news in the love department. I will not be explicit about my love life via blogspot like I have been in the past...primarily because I'm taking the stance that unless I'm seriously involved, it's not really worth talking about. However, I will write about relevant issues surrounding certain themes that come up with mine or my friends' relationships. Especially since me and the lovely ladies that surround me coincindently usually go through the same things around the same time...at least as far as men are concerned.

As of right now, the lovely ladies of Courtney Inc. are currently Ladies In Waiting with a modern day twist. Many of us are content with our current interest...all of our leading fellas are very solid, respectful, and HONEST men. The only problem is that most of us feel that despite the fact we are semi-involved with certain guys, we still feel like we are playing a game of slight tug-of-war. All of us are involved with a guy who undoubtly is feelin the shit out of us, is completely honest about his view of our relationship and his relations with other women (even when it's things we do not want to hear), sex tends to take an extreme back seat to being in a partnership, and on those very few occassions that we do feel insecure about our status they keep it real without being manipulative or making us feel like idiots. We all feel accepted flaws and all...but most all we feel respected and that we are not being taken advantage of.

So what's the problem? The problem is that these men still want to play. The difference is that they are honest about it. There are no games. And they have enough respect and love for us to not want to lead us on. My one friend in particular has reached that mutual "I love you" phase with the guy that she is talking to, but they are still not in a committed relationship. There is no doubt in my mind after meeting him that he's feeling her...and that says a lot coming from me because I'm very overprotective of my friends. But the truth of the matter is, he likes her, is not ready to settle down, and at the same time is man enough not to hurt her because he genuinely cares.

A couple of my friends have ran into these types of guys many of times and have had major dramatic events occur around them. Mainly becuase some of my homegirls will try to force the man into a relationship because they feel they shouldn't be expected to wait for them. They have learned from this mistake. And by mistake I'm not saying they should wait for them....I'm saying that they should not force a relationship. They should let him do him and let God do the rest. It's God's job to work on them, not ours. If he comes around, he comes around...and he can only hope that he's not too late.

A part of me cannot help but entertain the thought that maybe these guys feel us but not enough. What happens if we simply are not what they are looking for? But at the same time, all of these men in question are men who tend not say things unless they were true.


I have not talked to any homeboys about being what I call "A Lady in Waiting" so I'm definitely interested in hearing the males perspective. Once I talk to a couple of guys, I'd be sure to post an update.

Until then any readers can feel free to leave a comment as the ladies in waiting patiently wait for their leading fellas to come home....

Video of the Day: VP Debate Spoof from SNL

Next Presidential Debate: Tuesday, October 7th, 2008

Redefining "Hater"

So finally I have some time to sit my restless ass down to write....



There has been too much going on for me to really update everyone on all the changes that has been going in my life but lately I have had a something on my mind that I want to share. As with most things in life, each stage that we live through teaches us a valuable lesson about people, about ourselves, or about the grand scheme of things. Right now, I have made so many changes internally that the person I was before is almost completely unrecognizable....and it's a good thing.

If you ask anyone, most people will tell you that the best way to know if the people you deal with are really down for you is to see what they do in your time of need...but I'm learning that this is not all the way true given the fact that there is a good chance that when you are in need, they may be in need to...or, because I'm so stubborn, they may not even realize that you need them.

What I have learned over the past year is that the best way to know if the people you deal with are really downn for you is to see how they act when you decide you want to be a better person. It would suprise you because the people you think would try to hold you back end up being the ones to support your changes and the people you would think would have your back will be the ones who will try to bring you down.

I have given up smokin and drikin (with the exception of wine and beer), I have developed a higher standard of ethics and I am more grounded in my morale. I do not go out to party, I hate bars, when I do go out to dance I dance by myself as opposed to grinding with some sweaty ass stranger. I'm less quick to anger and am more humble when I'm mad or irritated. I have become less judgemental of people who are in a lesser position than I am (i.e. hoovers) and more judgemental of the people who are supposedly on my level. I have decided to go back to church even though I'm not into organized religion (even though I've always been spiritual). And the biggest change of all is that I have decided that I do not want to work for a public company. I'd rather work for a private company, work non-profit, or work for myself (ideally I've always wanted to work for myself). I've also felt more like settling down and have completely given up habitual dating (I haven't dated since January 08 and haven't had sex since November 07). I am also more ginuinely understanding.

All these changes have drastically affected my relationships with people. For both good and bad. I have always had a disdain for haters...and I have always considered haters to be people who hate the fact that I'm going somewhere in life. I go to an exceptionally good school and I'd probably be able to get a very good and lucrative job. But as I age and mature, I'm starting to redefine the word "hater". I don't get the same bad taste in my mouth when I meet people like this because I realize that the worse haters are not those who hate you because you are able to have more but are those you hate you because you are a good, solid person who has full control of self.

I think living in a world where most blacks do not have equal opportunity to excel has a way of fucking with people's heads that cause them to crash into each other. The problem is 50% society and 50% individual responsiblity. It makes sense as to why they hate and it's not completely their fault...it's justifiable anger and I feel sorry for them and want to help them.

The people who I do not want to help are the "friends" who continuously encourage me not to make the necessary changes in my life. When I stopped drinking, I was pretty floored by the fact that most of my friends who are "on my level" got unreasonalbly nasty about the fact that I no longer drink like that and the friends who I consistently brand as hoovers started buying hard liquor less often. And when I said that people got nasty...I'm mean they were really high and mighty about it. When I decided that to give up the dating game and focus more on finding a serious, long term relationship...the friends who are "on my level" (the same ones who have the misconception that I am a slut even though I do not sleep around) once again got really nasty about the fact that I've become more committal.

I can understand if people do not feel the need to live life the way that I have decided to live mine...I am a pretty tolerant person and I do not hold people to the same standards that I hold to myself. I never try to force my beliefs on anybody because I know that life is made up of shades of gray and nothing is ever black and white. What I do not understand is the extent to which people go to pull you underder. I have had more than my fair share of experiences when it comes to "hoovers" trying to pull me down...but the most they will do is try to trick you into feeding them or instead of getting on their man for wanting to fuck you, they get in your face when you know that the only person who wants their man is them.

The people who are "on my level" on the other hand are far far more coniving, far more condescending, and a lot more backstabbing. I think it's because they are used to feeling on top and they are not use to feeling less. Therefore, they are by far more competitive. In addition, people who are "on my level" pride themselves for being financially and academically successful...but I am learning that success is defined more through what type of person you are. And based on this definition, the number of successful people in the world is drastically low. People are more inclined towards the bad than they are the good.

I find that when people who are "on my level" feel threatened they become the biggest liars I've ever met. They lie about everything and/or they will will shamelessly find out your weakness and use it against you over and over and over again (if you allow it).

As I have already stated, hoovers hate because they are emotionally discouraged. The people who are "on my level" on the other hand, are just plain heartless. There is no reason for their madness other than to be alpha dog...even when they are being well fed. This is why the world is the way it is...you have too many people trying to be alpha dog and not thinking about the general good of the global community. Hoovers just want to eat....while the people who are being fed just want to take just for the sake of taking...they want more than a good quality of life...they want power.

Being around hoovers is like being around dogs. They are generally loyal, playful, cuddly, and will be sniffin your ass when their needs are met but they become bitches when you hold a piece of meat in front of them that they can't have when they haven't eaten for days. Being around people who are "on my level" is like swimming with sharks. They have no real sense of comraderie and even though they are the big power houses and have much to their disposable, they act like scavangers who shamelessly take other's left overs.