The Alpha Bitch Syndrome

Lately there has been much talk about why there is always female on female crime. Almost every female that you ask will tell you without hesitation "I don't fuck with bitches!". It is a reoccurring theme in the daily lives of most females and the media exploits are dramatic antics toward each other through the wave of reality TV. We also see the shit on our facebook and myspace statuses...telling the world how much we are willing to piss on a fire hydrant just to prove that we are fabulous.

Let me just say, there is nothing fabulous about pissing on a fire hydrant.

Men are continuously scratching their heads in confusion, kind of wondering "why can't these bitches just get along?".

Well I am here today to tell you. The problem with chics is that every woman wants to be an "Alpha Woman". Most of the time, being deemed the alpha of anything is usually associated with men, but when it all comes down to it, women are more prone to this syndrome than men are. A man will not let anyone "test his gangster" but that does not necessarily mean that a man is in a constant state of competitiveness with another man to stay on top. Men learn very early on to be comfortable with just being and accepting their place on the Greek alphabetical hierarchy (not unless it comes down to their cars). After all, there is not enough room for everyone to be an alpha....or is it?

Most women are born with the notion that they are the most beautiful, the most fabulous, the most smartest, etc... However, women fail to realize that not everyone is a Halle Berry or an Einstein. Yet despite this obvious reality, there are few women on earth that will admit to being full of faults. We love to live under the delusion that we are flawless.

Yes, you should have confidence and yes, you should love who you are...but really, how confident and accepting of yourself are you if you are consistently comparing yourself to someone else? Just be, ladies, just be.

Every chic believes that her way is the only way and any diversion from her subjective reality, no matter how small the diversion may be, will bring out the worst in her. When a woman feels that her Alpha status is threatened, she becomes more manipulative, underhanded, and/or aggressive....Women who suffer from the Alpha Bitch Syndrome are shiesty and are snakes. Instead of working on changing themselves, they'd rather work on demolishing any Alpha Woman that stands in their way.

Before I continue, let me just clarify the difference between the Alpha Woman and the Alpha Bitch. The Aplha Woman has her swag turned on to the point that she is unresponsive to foolishness. Everyday she asks herself "What's a hater?" because to her, haters do not exist. She is an alpha who doesn't know she is an alpha because her focus is on the high road and on nothing else. She never has to look in her rearview because she has enough faith in herself to direct her life just by simply looking straight ahead. She is the master of the okey-doke because she inwardly knows that she has nothing to prove. A person can believe what they want about her...who is she to correct them? She knows what it is and has no problem keepin it movin...she keeps it movin and is always three steps ahead. She is straightforward and arms herself with inner beauty. Her mottos: "Get the getter before you get got", "Goin brush your shoulders off", "I am who I am so just let a bitch be", and "Whateva' Chedda'"

...let that marinate a little bit.

The Alpha Bitch on the other hand, puts the energy of her swag into her mouth. Everyday she spits fire, screaming to the top of her lungs "Fuck all these hatin ass bitches, they know what's really good". She is a chic who thinks she is an alpha, who wakes up every morning thinking of ways to have swag like an alpha, who seriously reminds everyone just how much of an alpha she is everyday. She is always looking out her rearview because she is worried about who is going to come up from behind and thus has a hard time looking straight ahead. She loves watching other people's business and yet, she is left wondering why she crashes so much and why she has trouble going from point A to point B. She is the master of words and the fire she spits is like no other. She must remind everyone who she is because she does not realize that if she were somebody she wouldn't have to tell them. She does not understand how to let her swag speak for itself. She is condescending because that is her only weapon that she is armed with. Her mottos: "They wish they were a boss like me", "Suck a dick", and "Don't they realize who the fuck I am?"

But regardless if you are an Alpha Woman, suffer from The Alpha Bitch Syndrome, or fall somewhere in between there is still room for everyone to hold a high rank.

There is a power that all women have and unfortunately this day and age, we have forgotten it, have yet to tap into it,and/or have given it away.

Like Hov said "It's the power of the P.U.S.S.Y.". Now, to all the Alpha Bitches out there...this does not mean that you have the best tastin vajayjay nor does it mean that the power lies in the fact that you give the best head....the power of the vajayjay lies in the ability to dangle it without giving it away....it's called seduction...and an Alpha Woman knows its art.


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Don't Take It Personally? How Can't U...

I have finally taken the last class OF MY LIFE...or at least until I decide to get a Masters which is highly likely.

I am done, done, done and it feels so incredibly good because as I always say..."It's been one hell of a ride!".

I feel that now that I have my degree, the next thing that I want to focus on is my personal relationships because at the end of the day, that is what matters most. Money will always be there but people, however, will not. There is no doubt in my mind that career wise I'll end up where I'm suppose to be....as far as my personal relationships are concerned I feel that needs a lot of work.

In the past, I have always been a person that has had an "easy come, easy go" attitude toward people. And I have what I like to call a "preoccupied" state-of-mind. This way of thinking has worked well in terms of helping maintain my resiliency in order to achieve other goals, but, this way of thinking is not sustainable.

Eventually you have to take the plunge and tell yourself that people are not disposable. It's part 2 of the maturation process...and for me, is by far the hardest to learn.

It was not until very recently that I discovered just how much of a non-committal person that I am. I never had a real desire to have an intimate relationship (which is probably why my past history with men is not all that great), I do not want kids, when I go to work I'm in and out and really do not care to make work friends, I have always had a desire to get as far away from my dysfunctional family that was humanly possible, and even though I have been well received by roommates...I'd prefer to live alone.

Don't get me wrong, I have a genuine love and concern for most people, I make friends easily and I am sociable...I am also the type who will drop everything to help someone else even to my own detriment....BUT, I have to admit, that there is a large part of me that is consistently unreachable.

Previously, I have been comfortable with the fact that I am non-committal. Like I said, investing more into my personal goals and less into others has got me far. But that is not necessarily what life is all about and I find myself slightly more unfulfilled than I have ever did before. I'm content and comfortable but unfulfilled nonetheless (sigh).

The reason why my proneness to run away from commitment has become a problem now is because now I want more than I previous did when it comes to my personal relationships. The problem with getting more is that I find that I'm a big ass scaredy cat. As much as I hate to admit this, I have discovered that I have a severe lack of trust and faith toward people. It's a lot deeper than I could have imagined and when I start getting too close for comfort with people, I have this HUGE compulsion to run away. This is something that I always knew was in me but I really never thought it was that deep and it was a very fixable problem.

I don't know where this compulsion comes from but because I am so resilient, I'm determined to kick this bad habit in the ass ASAP. I once read somewhere that the definition of courage was not someone who is fearless. Rather, courage means that you are very fearful but you charge ahead anyways. Some feel that I may be being a bit melodramatic about my inability to have personal relationships with any real depth, but, it has come to a point that the thought of being close makes my stomach drop and I get over anxious. So, it is definitely a real problem that has just made its way to the forefront.

I think I have become so accustomed to pushing my way through life for myself and by myself that as much as I want something different, this is my comfort zone. It's what I have come to know and anything outside of that is foreign to me.

As I said, I'm up for the challenge and I'm more than ready to open a new and fresh chapter in my life...even though I'm scared shitless. I have always put all my trust and faith into myself and learning to do otherwise will be hard but not impossible.

It's time for me to start taken things personally.

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